a question about love
I was instant messaging with my younger sister tonight and we started joking about how love doesn't exist. I made a comment about how commitment exists - people are committed or they are not. Those that value the commitment stay married; those that don't, get divorced. She then asked me if I really thought love didn't exist. She also asked if I thought my mother and father really loved each other. I listened to my mom and dad tell some people part of their love story (how they met, how they wrote letters to each other, how they broke up due to religion, and how they finally got back together to get married, etc.) at lunch today. It's a beautiful story. They really do love each other. I have no doubt about that (most of the time). But underlying their love is a tremendous respect for commitment. For those of you who have committed to someone else and are falling more in love with him/her as time goes by...I'm happy for you. For those of you who are still seeking a relationship like that...pray that God will lead you to a person who you can grow with. And for those of you who want to believe in love for yourselves but find it much easier to only believe in it for others...I'm right there with you.
What do I know...I'm a stupid bachelor...I shouldn't even be commenting about this.
Thanks for reading.
1 Comments:
If and when passion dies out in a relationship, it is usually the commitment that keeps it alive. Robert Sternberg called commitment without passion "empty love." But he also said it is a major determinant in the success of marriage. Even if parents are not truly "passionate," aren't you happy they are truly commited to eachother for a lifetime. The trick is to maintain a sense of passion in the marriage for such a long time while keeping the commitment. It's complicated Mario. Love stinks!
Post a Comment
<< Home